Yesterday, he had so much to say about her. I won’t go into too much detail but he spoke badly of her and wished bad things on her. I tried to put a stop to it politely. Everything he said about her is actually about him. I find it so ironic that people who talk this way about other people are speaking about themselves. I believe it’s known as projecting. I told him everything you are wishing on her will come back to you and to be careful of speaking so hatefully.
I was trying to get him to understand that it’s okay to tell your truth and how you feel about a situation but the things you are saying aren’t right and God is funny…where the things you are saying will also be your plate of food! You gon ‘ have to eat them words…
I tried to get out of the conversation but it continued. It ended in him calling me an a** because I was “mocking” him. He kept telling me to stop talking and calling me a smart a**. God, I hate when people say that what I said was “smart”. I’m not trying to be “smart”, I’m just speaking. Never mind the name calling right lol.
No matter how nice I think I say it, how careful I formulate my words, somehow I’m smart. Lord, if it’s me, help me with this please. I was just trying to give some understanding.
Ok, how crazy is it that this morning, you revealed to me your word on the situation with him yesterday. You really took me on an information journey this am. It’s awesome. So glad that I could be obedient and not skip over the reference notes.
I began reading 2nd Samuel 16:10 which led me to the 1st Peter 2:23. When I saw that 1st Peter 2:23 was talking about Christian submission and conduct, I wanted to read from the beginning of chapter 2. 1st Peter 2:23 led me to Hebrews 2:5. Hebrews 2:5 said to turn to 2nd Peter 3:13 but instead, by accident but your purpose, I turned to 1st Peter 3:13. 1st Peter 3:13 led me to Proverbs 16 and Proverbs 14:12.
Between here and there, your word spoke exactly about my encounter with him last night.
Proverbs 16:16 – …and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver!
Proverbs 16:18 – 19 – Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be of a humble spirit…
Proverbs 16:21 – …and the sweetness of the lips increaseth learning.
Proverbs 16:22 – Understanding is a well spring of life unto him that hath it; but the instruction of fools is folly.
Proverbs 16:23-25 – The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning to his lips. Pleasant words are as an honeybomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones. There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
Proverbs 14:12 – There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
Proverbs 14:13 – Even in laughter, the heart is sorrowful…
Proverbs 14:14 – The backslider in heart shall be filled with his own ways: and a good man shall be satisfied from himself.
Oh, God…. in the scriptures you’ve shown me, you really confirmed a lot. I know deep down inside there is hate of himself that he likes to project on others. I know that he is very sorrowful. Barely smiling on the outside but in pain deep deep down inside.
It’s so funny that yesterday he said “I’m a good guy” and I said “that may be true but is it true to God?! Because what we think good of ourselves is normally not good to God”. For example, I thought I was a good girl – good person. I had a good head on my shoulders, good job, good grades in college, had my own place, took care of my family, was generous. Everything. But I was also living in sin and was not pleasing in your sight.
He kept saying that I wasn’t loyal and I was defending my best friend. I was just explaining so that he could have some understanding. It’s okay if people don’t like you. Sometimes their sprit doesn’t mesh will with others. That doesn’t take away anything from you. I’m able to see things from different perspectives and if I can’t, I can at least respect it. He is someone whose ways are always right and has no understanding for other’s opinions, perspectives, or views. So to see you bring up that understanding is as a well-spring was cool and right on time. I mean knowing our past, it would be natural not to particularly care for him. I don’t necessarily agree with my best friend either, and I have voiced that.. but hey, IM OUT OF IT! I just require that they both respect one another.
The way he spoke, the things he said, he is trying to find someone to blame other than himself for my moving out. He is always wishing bad karma on people and saying how miserable they are. I mean he can speak very nastily. I would always tell him about the power of his tongue.
His misery looks terrible on him. I can certainly understand how pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones. God I pray you rrrrrrreally help him find you so that he can be cleaned up on the inside. It’s just so much pain there, it’s disheartening.
Nonetheless, I am so happy you came to provide me with wisdom and discernment to affirm my feelings especially when I can’t really explain it with my own words.